You know those days where you literally cannot face adulting? For most you- you probably don’t have a choice- but for the self-employed those days can be altogether too easy to wallow in self pity until bed time hits again.
I’ll let you guys in on a little secret.. I don’t have it all together. I don’t always meal prep. I don’t always walk around with this happy sunny disposition smiling all the time. I don’t always work out, and sometime I do as I mentioned above and just can’t deal for a day.
So here are my top tips when life becomes all together a little too much and you want to hide away from everyone and everything.
First- give yourself permission to release & re-group. This might mean giving yourself an hour to cry, or get outside and away from everyone or also this might mean a few hours in bed being sad. For me it looked like all of the above and finished with a good cry on the phone with a friend, and a good night sleep.
Practice some gratitude: Write down at least 3 things you are grateful or say them out loud. Really FEEL that gratitude and love. Reminding yourself of the things you are thankful for and all the good going on in your life is a great way to start climbing out of that hole.
Now you’re ready to tackle the rest. Before you do anything else. Clean up your space and cook some food! This is priority number one. I guarantee once you have a good relaxing space and you have some nutritious meals ready- life already feels easier to handle. At least thats the case for me. I tidied up, and made two meals to get me through the busy week and so I don’t have to worry about eating shit (which makes me feel like shit.. and why I ended up in this predicament in the first place).
Treat yourself. I bought myself a nice bouquet of wildflowers to sit in my cleaner space and to do something nice for myself. Maybe you want to get yourself some Starbucks, or a bubble bath or a pedicure – whatever feels like a luxury for you!
Reach out: Trust me when I say I know how difficult this is! When going through a tough time I tend to completely isolate myself and I hate to “burden” others with my problems. But thats WHY we have friends and families- to connect and be there for each other. So use ’em! A quick phone call or a text to a loved one can really change the course of your day.
Then make yourself a list. Tackle whatever is really bothering you the most first: (ie: eating the frog first..) everything else seems a little bit easier after this. Start with just 3 things on your list, and then you can add more after you finish those three.
Tackle that list.. In your new clean space.. with your healthy meals already made. You may feel so productive that you end up having some time to…
Get a workout in: Even if its just getting outside for 20 minutes- I highly recommend moving your body no matter how much you don’t feel like it. You’ll never regret it!
Pat yourself on the back at the end of the day and revel in all the good things you did for yourself. Seriously- don’t just knock this step- taking time to feel PRIDE and ENJOYMENT from accomplishments (no matter how small) is how you keep on doing them- and they snowball into major accomplishments and bad assery.
I hope this helps you next time you are having one of those “I just can’t deal!” moments. You can deal! You got this!
Tara
Training by Tara Brunet 