Ditch the Scale & Practice Body Acceptance Instead

I train SO MANY BEAUTIFUL, SMART, INTELLIGENT, AMAZING women who insist on continuing to measure their self worth by the scale. It makes me want to rip my hair out and go over to their houses and smash their scales once and for all!

I understand the attachment to the scale, TRUST ME. I’ve so been there. Taking off all my clothes every morning, making sure to pee first; don’t you dare have a sip of water or take a vitamin! Don’t forget to take off earrings and hair elastic! Oh, and stand on the scale a certain way with my weight in my heels because that somehow seems to make the number smaller. Do you hear how ridiculous this sounds? This was my reality everyday, and sometimes twice a day, because if I did a sweaty workout I would probably lose some water weight- yippee!  I was so attached to the number. Regardless if I woke up feeling energized, happy, leaner in the mirror and proud of my appearance- if I stepped on the scale and god forbid the number went up even 1/2 a pound it would send me into a state of panic. What if I ate too much yesterday? I shouldn’t have had that bite of cheesecake! Why didn’t I push myself harder in the gym? Why didn’t the number go down? I can’t keep this up! I’m so tired- this number should be going down!

YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT’S ACTUALLY OCCURRING IN YOUR BODY. I know everyone knows the whole “Muscle weighs more than Fat” saying but I think a picture is worth a whole lot more. So here are a bunch of pictures demonstrating that you can get leaner, smaller, fitter, faster- WHILE GAINING WEIGHT, staying the same, or losing only 1-2lbs. Imagine if these ladies stepped on the scale everyday and just saw the number go up? I bet they would have given up instantly and not be in the amazing shape they are today. You can find all these amazing women on instagram and try searching the #screwthescale hashtag to see more of these amazing results!

Now that you’ve seen that you can see results without the scale budging or going on an upward trend – I want you to take it even further.

Start practicing body acceptance. 

This is so hard for so many women. You feel that if you accept your body in the state it’s in right now then you have to give up on all those dreams of hitting that number you’ve always wanted, or the body shape you’ve always aspired to. This is untrue. Just because you are accepting your body in its current state and loving it as much as possible, doesn’t mean that you don’t want to still work towards better fitness and health. Instead of focussing on changing your body- I challenge you to love and accept it today. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love your tummy, or your curves, or that body part that you’ve always wanted to change. Because this is you RIGHT NOW. All you have is this moment. Stop waiting for a year from now to wear a bikini, dance around naked, be confident in front of your parter. The only time you have is now- so it’s time to start loving and accepting your body TODAY. The more you can practice body acceptance- the happier and more confident you will feel- trust me!

Think about why you want to lose weight. So you can feel more confident, happy, outgoing, look better in clothes? These are ALL things that you don’t need to lose weight to achieve. You need to change your mindset. You can become more sexy and happy and confident in your skin without losing a single pound. I absolutely guarantee you’ll also find longer lasting happiness and health by changing your mindset to a one of body acceptance than one of withholding on life until you look a certain way. When you lose the weight- you won’t magically become more confident or happy. It all happens up in your head. I cannot express this enough. When I started LOVING my body everything changed for me. I’m now the same weight I was years ago- but so happy and grateful for this body- whereas years ago I was miserable, hating myself, and punishing myself with exercise and food restriction. All for the exact same weight! I wasted years of my life hating my body and I can’t stand any one else experiencing this.

Start living everyday like you are in the body of your dreams. Because this is your body, and it’s done so much for you. Love it and appreciate it everyday. Please don’t wake up when you’re 90 and look back on life and think about all the things you didn’t do because you didn’t feel confident enough, thin enough, good enough. Your body is a vessel that can do anything it sets its mind to- and that’s the key. Change your mind and change your life! 

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How to reduce alcohol consumption!

Hello beautiful readers!

If you know me in real life, you’ll know that I love my wine. Is there anything better than a glass of vino and long chats by the fire, or a glass while you cook? Maybe wine isn’t your cup of tea and you’d rather unwind with a beer, cider or cocktail. Either way, alcohol for most us is part of a social routine. It’s easy to fall back on alcohol for lubricant in social situations and it can easily become a habit. As I began a new relationship I definitely noticed I was drinking a lot more because it’s so lovely to sit down with your partner and a glass of wine and snuggle up– before you know it the whole bottle is gone! (Just me? Awkward).

As part of my “no sugar” week I also tried to reduce my wine consumption. You’ll know I’m all about that balance so eliminating it completely didn’t seem sustainable for me. I’ve been keeping it under 1-2 glasses per week for a few weeks now and I’m honestly shocked at how much better I feel, leaner I feel, and stronger I feel in the gym. (This may be obvious, but I never really drank more than 1-2 glasses in a sitting so I didn’t think it was affecting me that much). I’ve picked up some tips along the way that really help ease your way into reducing alcohol and still feeling like you are part of the party!

Step 1: Volunteer to be the designated driver. This ones obvious, but once you are hooked into that its automatically easier to say no and not get persuaded into have a glass or two. Plus everyone loves having a driver!

Step 2: Bring something to drink instead. This one was huge! I think the whole thing about drinking is feeling social, and part of the group. If you are sitting there with nothing to drink you feel awkward and out of place. I’ve been bringing Kombucha, or Perrier and lemon to social gatherings and filling a wine glass with that instead. I honestly don’t feel like I’m missing out on a thing! Or you can make a wine spritzer and cut your wine intake in half by mixing half and half with Perrier/ ice. Just a tip: skip the Green Kombucha unless you want to get a whole lot of weird looks and comments about why you are drinking some sort of green slime (… me on Thanksgiving).

Step 3: Figure out your “Why”. This is so key. If you don’t have a strong reason for anything you do it’s so easy to question yourself or get persuaded by peer pressure. At first when I tried reducing wine it was HARD and I just sat there feeling uncomfortable wondering why I didn’t just have a glass. What the harm? This is where our thinking gets us into trouble. I know that if I had “just a glass” every time everyone around me was drinking in the past few weeks it would have added up big time. After I made it through the first week and felt AMAZING it made it so much easier to stick to my guns. I honestly haven’t been craving it at all and after the weekend I was sooo excited to get back to no sugar and no wine. (Truly). If you are getting excited about health changes and the difference you are seeing in your energy, sleep, and body- THAT is when the huge changes happen, because it no longer takes effort. We are creating new habits! So I encourage you to figure out WHY the heck you are doing this or the first to put a little pressure on you will make all the sense in the world.

Step 4: Give it a try. Set a goal for a certain period of time- perhaps 1 week to start. Or 2 glasses of wine in a week to start like I did, so you don’t feel totally left out of the social situations. I’ve realized in the past few weeks that if your goal is weight loss, or improving your physique- giving up the booze makes an insane difference. I’ve always felt great about where my body is at if I’m drinking moderately, but I’m amazed at the difference giving it up makes. I was listening to a great podcast the other day on alcohol, and I think we need to be honest with ourself what our goals are. If you really want to see results, you may need to make a few more sacrifices, and I think alcohol should be the first to do when you want to buckle down. Make lots of room for NUTRITION and filling foods in your diet to feel your absolute best!

Hope you enjoyed this post, let me know if you have ever tried giving up alcohol before. How did it feel? What worked for you?

 

Tara

Update on the Sugar Detox!

I’ve had quite a few people checking in with me on my “No Sugar” Challenge and wondering how it’s going..

Well, I started last Monday and on Day 2 I ate all the sugar. BUT I learned from that mistake (checking in with emotions, throwing out the junk food in the house) and now I’m firmly on Day 6 and feeling amazing!! I have so much more energy than I usually do- I was bouncing off the walls even after waking up at 4:45 this morning!

I feel like my skin is clearer, my energy is more sustained and my mood is better. All positives!  I am going to continue on with this no-sugar challenge for the rest of October, and ALSO aiming for less than 2 glasses of wine per week. This is a lot stricter than I normally am, and specifically because I have a fitness photo shoot booked for the beginning of November. I want to continue to perform my best in my business, life and fitness- I know that alcohol and sugar do not bring me closer to my goals, and I can live without them for a bit. Once I’m done you better believe I’ve celebrate with some ice-cream and wine!

How are you guys feeling without sugar? Are you noticing some positive benefits? One thing that is KEY is meal prepping delicious satisfying meals and ensuring you aren’t depriving yourself of calories so that you have tons of energy and feel happy and satisfied!

I hope this can convince a few people to try out the No Sugar Challenge. Oh, and I admit I haven’t been perfect! A few days last week I had some whole wheat bread with breakfast that had some sugar in it, I drank 2 glasses of wine over the week, and enjoyed 3 slices of pizza when I was out on Saturday night that probably had sugar in the bread and or the sauce. But, I feel amazing so I am just going to keep doing the best I can and aim for progress, not perfection!

 

Tara